A human proclivity is to live with a mindset of blame-and-complain. Things do not go our way so we blame others: parents, teachers, society, or anyone nearby. Life has not turned out how we would like so we complain to anybody who will listen.
One may find it hard to relate to ancient curses mentioned the Biblical narrative. Blessings are easy to hear, but curses? Until now I thought they were for another people at another time; “if you do not obey the Lord, your God…all these curses will come upon you and overwhelm you.” (Deut 28:15), or, “The Lord will send the curse of shortages, confusion…every one of your endeavors which you undertake, until it destroys you and until you quickly vanish.” (28:20) “And your skies above you will be [like] copper, and the earth below you [like] iron.” (28:23).
Our Blame Game knows no limits and may extend to blaming God, or even our ancestors. One of my spiritual teachers specialises in showing people their dark side: All the areas where you have brought ‘curses’ upon yourself. All the places where you have taken a perfectly healthy situation, a ‘blessing’, and messed it up.
I recently found myself in tears when I realised how much I was blaming others when I had not achieved certain important goals. I was taking potential blessings and turning them into curses. “If you do not obey God” might be re-read as “if you do not obey the Laws of the Universe”. In other words, if you repeatedly think in a certain way, speak in a certain way and behave in a certain way, then you will create certain results. There is not necessarily some kind of magical Divine intervention: just bad human behaviour.
The yogis spoke of ‘samskaras’, soul-wounds or negative states of mind that we need to heal, and the Kabbalists taught of ‘tikkunim’, the spiritual aspects we need to heal. We need look no further than our relationships which are not going well, be it personal or business, or to look at our physical and spiritual wellbeing to discover where we need to get to work fixing things.
When I got to see how I was responsible for creating and repeating negative patterns in my life, it became clear that there was no Divine ‘curse’ but a man-made (or Marcus-made) problem. However, if the earth below has become tough like iron, perhaps a few tear drops are the first catalyst of change to soften the ground for growing something new.
HOW TO APPLY THIS:
What is the No#1 complaint you repeat most often? Meditate on how you have been a cause in this matter. Now, transform the situation…